Are You a Good Asker?


So are you? I began to think about this today. As a mom, I have taught my children from the time they were little to now, how to ask for things. It was important for me to teach them how to ask with honor and respect. Gone are the days of, “Give me it!” or  “You have to buy that for me!”  I can proudly say, my children say “May, I please have that or this.” (Well, most of the time.)

Learning to ask is not something I have given much thought to in my own life. Yet, the bible has some very clear guides for asking.

1.   We are told to ask.

Matthew 7:7-12 (GW)

Ask, and you will receive. Search and you will find. Knock and the door will be opened for you. Everyone who asks will receive. The one who searches will find, and for the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

“If your child asks you for bread, would any of you give him a stone? 10 Or if your child asks for a fish, would you give him a snake? 11 Even though you’re evil, you know how to give good gifts to your children. So how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask him?

God already knows what we need without asking (Matt 6:8), yet He expects us to ask to receive.  Why would He want us to do this? It is His plan for us to realize our trust in Him. Asking implies, “I trust you enough to provide.” Asking is a form of putting ourselves at His mercy. Asking puts our hearts on Him as our Source for all our needs.

2.   Not only are we told to ask, but to receive.

Matt 7:8a

Everyone who asks will receive.

That word everyone, means you and me. It means us all. God is not a respecter of persons, He is not going to honor your pastor’s asking more than yours. So I must ask myself, am I expecting an answer? Have I position my heart to receive? Do I really believe that when I ask God that I will receive? Sometimes, yes and sometimes no.

1 John 3:22 (AMP)

22 And we receive from Him whatever we ask, because we [[a]watchfully] obey His orders [observe His suggestions and injunctions, follow His plan for us] and [[b]habitually] practice what is pleasing to Him.

This is God’s word. It is His absolute truth for us. His heart is for us to receive. When our hearts are submitted to Him and we habitually are practicing faith, this sets us up to receive from Him whatever we ask because we ask for the things that are in His plan and purpose for us.

3.    Not only are we told to ask, and receive but also to keep on asking.

Luke 11:9-13 (AMP)

So I say to you, Ask and [a]keep on asking and it shall be given you; seek and [b]keep on seeking and you shall find; knock and [c]keep on knocking and the door shall be opened to you.

10 For everyone who asks and [d]keeps on asking receives; and he who seeks and [e]keeps on seeking finds; and to him who knocks and [f]keeps on knocking, the door shall be opened.

11 What father among you, if his son asks for [g]a loaf of bread, will give him a stone; or if he asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent?

12 Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion?

13 If you then, evil as you are, know how to give good gifts [gifts [h]that are to their advantage] to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask and [i]continue to ask Him!

God does not get tired of us asking. He tells us to in His Word.  Now why would God tell us to keep on asking? If we receive from Him whatever we ask why would we need to keep on asking? Because God has so much to give us! We cannot out ask God’s ability to provide. Whether it is the actual thing we are asking for or His best in ways, we sometimes don’t recognize or understand.  God wants to share Himself with us. Asking puts our heart in a position of intimacy with God. It reminds us that we can’t meet our own needs and focuses our vision on the one who can. How great our God is!

Look at this next scripture:

 John 16:23-24 (AMP)

23 And when that time comes, you will ask nothing of Me [you will need to ask Me no questions]. I assure you, most solemnly I tell you, that My Father will grant you whatever you ask in My Name [as [a]presenting all that I Am].

24 Up to this time you have not asked a [single] thing in My Name [as [b]presenting all that I Am]; but now ask and keep on asking and you will receive, so that your joy (gladness, delight) may be full and complete.

I feel so excited as I read this. God wants me to ask and keep on asking while at the same time receiving. In every situation that I am asking about He wants me to have full and complete joy. This is so awesome! This does not mean I get the exact thing I am asking for but it does mean whatever I receive, it is because God want me have full and complete joy! God cares about my joy! I am celebrating as I write these words! I have the freedom to ask God for the desires of my heart. I have the hope to believe that God will cause me to receive His best for me in every situation.

4.    If we do not have, it is because we do not ask or we ask wrongly.

James 4:2b-3

You do not have, because you do not ask. [Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.

This hit my heart.  As I am studying this, I see God’s heart. I feel Him wanting to give to me and yet how often do I stop to ask? How many blessings have I missed just because I didn’t bother to ask? Lord, I repent.

As I am writing this I see other areas in my life when I have turned to God and asked but my heart desire was my own pleasure. Many times God has given but I have failed to receive.  I repent for asking wrongly. I ask you Lord to show me how to ask and what to ask for. I give this whole area of asking up to you. I let you lead me to be an asker that honors you. Teach me how to ask for those things that are in your heart.

5. God wants us to ask, so He can supply above and beyond all that we can ask or think.

Ephesians 3:20 (AMP)

20 Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]—

God wants us to ask, so He can supply. Not just meeting our needs but to overflow us with His goodness. He is just that good!

So are you a good asker? I am learning how to be and delighting in the goodness of the God we serve.

Dear friend,

Ask and you shall receive that your joy may be full!

It is time for a joy fill up!


2 thoughts on “Are You a Good Asker?”

  1. Jenni:

    So many good point in your study! Often when we ask, it is a one time request. We wait. Nothing. Discouragement can easily set in or we get distracted. A key point in what your study brought out was to “ask and keep on asking” Even if it seems as though God is not answering, it may be that he is reading your heart…getting to know what your thinking. Ask out loud…hear what your words are asking God for…this is good feedback. Perhaps, this might be why Jesus said…ask and keep on asking…he is waiting till you [all those who ask] are on the same page as he is. And in the meantime…how exciting to know the Joy of His blessings are right around the corner…so to speak!


    1. I love your point of asking out loud to really hear what you are asking for. I so want to be on the same page as He is. ❤

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