Have you ever felt that your life is one of constant pain? That every where you go you have to face something painfully hard? It seems to me that everywhere people are hurting. People are broken. The last few days for me, have been filled with encounters with people in agony, their souls broken, their bodies depleted.
My heart has been pondering this. I know about love languages, but what about pain languages? How do I hear and understand what is really causing the pain in others to help them effectively?
Today as I seek the Lord I read about Paul and his pain.
2 Corinthians 7:5 (NET)
5 For even when we came into Macedonia, our body had no rest at all, but we were troubled in every way—struggles from the outside, fears from within.
Recently I had a visit to the Chiropractor who told me that pain is usually the last resort of the body. When things in the back are out of place, they can remain that way for long periods of time till finally your body resorts to pain. He cited heart attacks, one doesn’t usually feel their arteries clogging and becoming impassable till they have a heart attack. The pain I have encountered these last few days attests to this. The people God has brought into my life have had constant misuse heaped upon them. So, as I have met them, their souls and bodies are brimful with pain.
That brings me to Paul. In this passage he was in a mighty struggle. Listen to his language, “bodies with no rest, troubled in every way, struggles outside, fears from within.” Can you hear Paul’s pain? He is exhausted, discouraged, weary and fearful. Yes, this same Paul who wrote 15 books of the bible and is considered the great Apostle. He still faced places of pain.
Pain in our lives is certain because there will always be places in our lives that get clogged, break, and that are coming out of alignment. We will face stresses. We will have fears.
2 Corinthians 7:10 (AMP)
10 For godly grief and the pain God is permitted to direct, produce a repentance that leads and contributes to salvation and deliverance from evil, and it never brings regret; but worldly grief (the hopeless sorrow that is characteristic of the pagan world) is deadly [breeding and ending in death].
We need God to process our pain. Pain that we direct always leads to regret. Regret is a sense of loss that is never soothed; a constant place of sorrow. God’s plan is to give us hope for our future, even in our pain. So that painful place becomes a display of God’s perfect care of us and place of constant joy. This is how God brings our pain to good.
As I let God process my pain, those moments don’t accumulate in my soul and body as places of regret, but as places where God meets me and fills me with hope for the future.
Now, when I meet someone who is in pain, I trust the Holy Spirit to reveal the truth of their pain language. The more balanced I become in this, the more attracted people with pain are to me. Strangers will share their heart aches, their disappointments and sorrows with me openly. Instead of seeing them through my own pain filter, because God has been meeting my needs and ministering to me, I can see clearer what the root cause of their pain is. I can give them help. His words through me minister with accuracy. He is the perfect healer. He understands the pain language and the love language of us all.
We repent for directing our own pain. Our souls and bodies are filled with regrets. We ask you to be the Lord of our pain. Help us to turn to you, depend on you, and trust you. Heal our hearts and heal our bodies.
Help us to become aware of those areas that are out of alignment or clogged. Give us wisdom to operate our souls, our minds, and our bodies. When pain shows up, we set our heart to seek you. We set our hearts to be healed by you.
Because you have directed our pain, we will become people of joy, your joy. Your joy in us will overflow in us and touch the many others who are in pain.
~In Jesus Name, Amen