Emotions relative to shame:
Fear (of failure/rejection/embarrassment)
We all feel a few of these once in a while, but if someone feels a majority of these most of the time, they are bound by shame.
Guilt vs Shame
Guilt is sin that deserves blame or punishment; it rejects the act as wrong; Guilt tells me that what I did was wrong.
Shame rejects the one who committed the act. Shame tells me that I am wrong. It is the result of being accused of not being good enough to keep the Word of God.
Guilt says, “I have done wrong, I have failed.”
Shame says, “I am wrong, I am a failure.”
Guilt (conviction from God) focuses on the act.
Shame focuses on the person.
The blood of Jesus removes guilt at the moment of repentance.
If you genuinely repent but don’t begin to feel better then you aren’t dealing with sin, you are dealing with shame.
Guilt separates us from God in eternity. Shame separates us from God now.
If it was sin that causes God to leave us now, and scripture says that no man can come unto Jesus unless God draws him (John 6:44), then no one would ever get saved, because God left us.
When I sin, it is ME separating myself from God…but He is still pursuing me…because He loves me.
The enemy says that any space you feel between you and God is because God left you. That is a LIE.
Any space you feel between you & God was not put there by God.
Remember…Adam and Eve didn’t hide because they were guilty, they hid because they were ashamed….. God didn’t stop coming to the garden to see them, either.
1 John 4:16-19 – And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. We love him, because he first loved us.
to know = experience
believed = trust and rely upon
judgment = crisis
We constantly want God to prove His love for us. We are so doubtful of His love that we interpret our circumstances as indicators of God’s love for us.
Things going well, bills getting paid, kids behaving, pounds falling off = “Oh! God must be happy with me! He loves me!”
Things aren’t going well, money is short, kids going nuts, gained pounds back = “Well, God’s not happy with me. I blew it. He doesn’t love me.”
Here’s a question for you……Did God stop loving Job?
If the enemy can get us into fear, he can get us to doubt God’s love for us. Once we have fear, we lose faith.
Faith is confidence in what God can do in my life.
Fear is confidence in what the devil can do in my life.
The devil cannot have authority over you unless God allows it and if God allows it, then He is already in control of it and has a purpose for it AND has a way to bring you through it.
BECAUSE GOD IS FOR YOU & HE LOVES YOU!!
(credit to Bishop Charles Wright & Tabernacle of Joy..you can look this study up on YouTube if you’d like to jump ahead.)