I don’t need Jesus to explain why something happened to me in order to be healed & to be made whole.
Jesus is able to take the broken places in my life and use them for a blessing to me. He wants to use my broken places for my benefit.
When a broken bone heals, it becomes stronger at the place of fracture. The broken places only make you weak until you allow the Lord to heal you. Those broken places will then become the strongest places in your life.
Unforgiveness is the most damaging sin because:
• It is the only sin that removes the Blood of Jesus form previously forgiven sin, opening the door for me to struggle again with old sins.
Matthew 18 tells the story of a man who owed a debt that he could not repay. He begged forgiveness and was granted relief. But when he went on his way, he refused to forgive the debts that people owed to him.
Verses 32- 35 say “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”
If he had already been forgiven, what did he owe? His lack of forgiveness took back God’s forgiveness to him.
The moral of the story is that I can’t ask God to do something for me that I’m not willing to do for you. This is true even if I have a grudge against myself.
• Prevents God from hearing & answering my prayers
Mark 11:25 “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Am I willing for God to shut down my prayer life in order to hold a grudge? Is what they did to me that important?
• Turns my life over to tormenters – no joy, peace, contentment, etc
People try to justify unforgiveness in their heart…..”That person doesn’t deserve my forgiveness! Look what they did to me!” or….”How can I ever forgive myself for that? I would be heartless.”
The price of holding a grudge is the highest price you’ll ever pay for anything.
• Unforgiveness gives Satan the advantage over us.
2 Corinthians 2: 9-12 “For to this end also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things. To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.”
• Warps my perception of myself, other people & my feelings about myself and what I think other people feel about me…thus preventing me from seeing things clearly. This makes my decisions unreliable.
Acts 24:16 “And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void to offense toward God, and toward men.”
Conscience – co perception, knowledge or sense of right & wrong with an urge to do right, leads to guilt if right is not done.
If your conscience isn’t working properly, you don’t see right & wrong clearly and don’t have motivation to do what’s right. When you do wrong, you don’t FEEL like you’ve done anything wrong. (easily justified)
Void of offense – in the Greek = to put your sword away, quit fighting
God works with my spirit to help me know right from wrong. If my conscience is damaged, I lose God’s help. Then all my perceptions are strictly of human origin and none can be trusted.
When you’ve got an offense (against others, God or yourself), the one person you can’t trust at all is yourself.
This is why Jesus tells us to “Come unto me, all you that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
(credit to Bishop Charles Wright & Tabernacle of Joy..you can look this study up on YouTube if you’d like to jump ahead.)